I was working with a client the other day around urges.

An urge is that “uncontrollable” feeling we get to eat or to do something–think binge eating potato chips, acting on an impulse, scrolling social media, drinking several glasses of wine, binging a show (or shows) on Netflix, shopping, over-exercising, etc.

I put “uncontrollable” in quotes because urges are NOT uncontrollable, but most of us THINK they are. “Uncontrollable” is how we think about urges so urges become uncontrollable.

Simply put, urges are just vibrations that we feel in our bodies. We THINK they control us, but we are actually being controlled by the way we are thinking about the urge.

Around Christmas time, my client found herself eating 11 sugar cookies in one sitting while driving home from work. Which then lead to more “out-of-control-eating” once she got home. In her session we worked to uncover the thinking that 1) had her eat the 1st sugar cookie, 2) that lead to her eating 10 more, and 3) left her beating herself up for days.

Last week she shared with me that she was at a birthday party recently where someone handed her a cupcake, and she felt zero desire to eat it. She said it was because she hasn’t been eating any sugar, so physiologically, she wasn’t craving it. When no one was looking, she threw the cupcake away.

Earlier in our session, we talked about her new hair cut. She said getting her hair cut was a “power move”–she was taking control of her life & making big moves.

When she shared her experience about not eating the cupcake, I celebrated her perceived victory, but then pointed out the real reason she didn’t eat the cupcake: her thought–I am making power moves.

Yes, it’s true that by not indulging in sugary foods, her body was less likely to crave more sugary foods, but it wasn’t just a physiological reason she ate 11 sugar cookies in one sitting back in December. It was a thought that she was out of control…that she couldn’t control the urge to eat the cookies or handle the emotions she was feeling.

Here, she is thinking a different thought and getting different results, but she wasn’t aware that there was a thought dictating her actions, so I pointed it out to her.

We spent time in that session exploring other ways this empowering thought of being in control was showing up in her life.

It is true that most of the work we do in life coaching sessions is uncovering the thoughts that are producing results you don’t want, but we also spend time uncovering the thoughts that ARE producing the results you DO want.

My job as your life coach is to help you see HOW you are thinking.

Many of the thoughts we think are subconscious. We’ve thought them so often that we don’t even really know they’re there. I am trained to recognize how you’re thinking and how to help you to see how that thinking is impacting your life.

The power in this is that YOU get to CHOOSE how you want to think.

Not all of your thoughts are “bad.”

When we find the “good” thoughts–the thoughts that serve you, the thoughts that help you get the results you REALLY want–you can then start using that unconscious thought ON PURPOSE.

You can make the subconscious conscious. That’s YOUR superpower.

Let’s uncover YOUR superpower.

Let’s uncover the thoughts you’re thinking and how those thoughts are impacting your life.

Click HERE to request a FREE session where we can work on an urge you’re struggling with or any other circumstance in your life causing you pain or discomfort.

Your best life is literally just one thought away.

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