Silence is my new flex.

I used to fight to be heard.

Over and over I would find people asking me questions, then not listening to my answer. 

They would look around, nonchalantly acknowledging me, and sometimes start talking to someone else as I was still talking.

Or, I would be telling people a story or some insight I had, and they would start walking out of the room or commence multi-tasking.

Many times, I’d just be cut off, never getting back around to what I was saying.

I would talk louder, talk faster, interject myself to bring the conversation back, and end up feeling pitiful and frustrated that I had to fight so hard to be heard.

I thought it meant something about me—that maybe I’m not interesting…or that people don’t care what I have to say…or that I’m not significant enough to keep their attention.

And then I learned about boundaries. 

Boundaries are about creating rules for our lives that allow others to be who they are, think what they are going to think, and act the way they are going to act, AND predetermine how we will act when our rule is violated.

Because I have decided that I am worthy, I have created a boundary so that I no longer have to fight to be heard.

When I find myself being dismissed in any way, I simply stop talking. It’s okay if someone doesn’t want to hear me, but it’s not okay for me to “make them” hear me.

So I simply stop talking. 

It’s a little frustrating when this happens, but I am willing to wait to share my words with the people who DO want to hear what I have to say. 

And rather than feeling defeated & insignificant in those circumstances, I feel empowered and worthy.

And that, my friends, is a beautiful feeling.

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(📸 Is another flex as I watch my muscles grow. Today, I am 6 weeks in to consistent/no-miss workouts. The pic was taken during week 3)