I’m a recovering hider.

I used to hide my energy, my passions, my beliefs, my laughter, my ideas, my own personal style, my insecurities from almost everyone.

Why?

Because I wanted to be liked.
I wanted to fit in.
I wanted to be accepted.

And I found that my big energy, my big laugh, my big emotions, my big insecurities kept me out of the tribe.

It took root in grade school when I moved to a new school.

It was a private Catholic school that started with 2nd grade, so when I came in 3rd grade, friend groups were already made.

I tried to blend in.
But I didn’t join a friend group.
For 6 years, I just quietly hid in the background. 

I became braver in high school & beyond, but never, ever have I fully lived out loud.

Because that would make me stand out & be different.

And who wants to do that?

Well, me, actually. 
I do.

I want to live authentically.
I want to dream & create.
I want to feel all the feels. 
I want to try & fail & succeed again and again.
I want to grow & evolve.

I want to choose me over and over and over.

But this is challenging for someone who doesn’t like to ruffle feathers and has spent most of her life shying away from attention.

So no more hiding in the shadows.
No more blending into the crowd.
No more lowering myself for others.

I’m choosing to tell myself NEW stories about who I am. Little by little peeling back the protective layers.

Maybe you’ve been this way too…hiding your true self so that people may like you or at least accept you–maybe not actually accept you as part of the flock (because maybe they’re not your kind and you don’t really want to belong), but maybe to be someone who doesn’t ruffle feathers. You know…maybe taking the phrase “play nice” to heart.

Maybe you don’t push back when others share viewpoints counter to yours. Maybe when going out with others you think about what they’re going to be wearing so you can choose similar clothes. Maybe you don’t get the haircut & color you secretly desire because no one else is really wearing their hair like that. Maybe you don’t challenge decisions others make when in your heart of hearts you don’t agree. Maybe you’re always polite even if someone else is rude. Maybe you don’t laugh as loud. You don’t share your passions. You allow customer service to suck at their job.

If this is you, it’s time to tell yourself new stories because it’s the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves and our lives that dictate how we feel and how we act.

And I can teach you how to do that.

I teach women how to be okay with who they really are by teaching them how to change the stories they tell themselves.

Click HERE to learn more or email me at karendurbinlifecoach@gmail.com

I think it’s time for you to rise up.

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If you feel this too, let’s connect because that means you’re my people. 

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